(Reverse) moves

Please can anyone tell me how to get Reverse moves to appear in a match? I would love to have some of them used on me or by me but they never appear?

Can you explain a bit more what you mean by reverse moves? Which mode are you talking about and can you give any examples?

For example, this move on Classic mode
https://www.erofights.com/en/acts/1351

it says Kinks (Reversed) Anal. Theres many more moves like this but they dont seem to appear in matches

Ah.
Kinks reversed is a different way of tagging kinks. The kink system is there to prevent people seeing content they don't like. So taking anal as an example, if I don't like seeing it and I have the anal (give) kink disabled, I won't be able to draw any anal actions to use myself. If I do have it enabled, and my opponent has is disabled to receive, then I still won't draw it. That's how normal kinks work.

Reversed kinks work the opposite way. Those are ones where you yourself are willfully having the kink done to you. So you are playing an action where to are taking something in your ass. It's anal, but instead of giving it, you are receiving it. It's still anal though. So this time, you want to be able to receive it and need the anal receive kink active, and you opponent needs the anal give kink active, even though they haven't chosen to use the action. That is what is meant by reversing the kinks.

In simple terms:
Normal - fucking someone in the ass
Reversed - presenting your ass to be fucked